I start my blog these days by saying it has been a while. I have been very busy working and then working some more. I realise that in the busyness of life I have let the romance element slip. After a little while of no special attention to my mate or from him. I find by love meter running pretty low. The irritating habits that we all have are amplified and I hear more negative comments slipping into our conversations.
If I ignore the warning signs that our relationship is going sour, it could walk out the door. Sadness, hurt and regret then replaces what was once a beautiful thing. I have seen several friends marriages end in the divorce courts recently. They are friends who live far away from me geographically. These divorces really floored me as they appeared strong and had at least 20 years in the tank.
When my life was less cluttered with work commitments. I would spend time with friends who were struggling or stressing about their relationships. I found in supporting them that most often it was the little things that count. I counselled from experience because my first marriage (8 years) did not survive and I learnt a lot by that failure. Current marriage is in its 22nd year.
If you have just stumbled upon this blog. Dig around in the archives and you will find many tips to ignite romance and keep the love alive. We all have a different vision of what romance is. Here are the starting points for romance.
- take time to find out what your mate loves and share that passion with them.
- complement them often.
- organise together time with no interruptions.
- find out what is important to them and validate & respect that. eg. I dislike clutter and mess. My mate doesn’t really notice it. He tries to be tidier and I am happier when he makes the effort.
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