The Importance of Being Positive
We all need encouragement. Those who are closest to us can often forget to compliment us. We get taken for granted and so we stop making the best effort.
Start with good manners and remember to say please and thank you. Look for opportunities to give compliments. Simple comments like
” The dinner is delicious. ”
” You look stunning tonight.”
“I love that dress on you.”
” Thank you for helping me I couldn’t have done it without your muscles”
‘”I love kissing you just after you have shaved.” this much better than saying “You need a shave you look scruffy.”
Now some people think it is funny to criticize their mate in a joking kind of way. It usually isn’t and they may be hurt by it, but never tell you.
Studies show that guys in particular thrive on compliments. They really do need their egos stroking. It actually encourages them to put more effort in so the encouragement keeps coming.
Listen to yourself and keep count of criticisms versus compliments. Now if the balance is weighted to the negative turn it around right now and keep your relationship in the positive. See how being positive will increase your feelings of love and appreciation to your partner.
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