” Romance. What is it anyway?
Definitively speaking, romance is a love affair, an ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people. But what is it really? What does romance feel like? What does it look like?
Speaking to friends, family and colleagues on this topic proved to be interesting. Most of the men in their 20’s and 30’s were quick to admit that romance didn’t exist anymore, yet they were unable to give reasons as to why they felt this way. Women on the other hand felt that romance had gone nowhere, and that many couples were simply misguided, ill informed or inexperienced when it came to that department. Could it be that we don’t have a clear idea of what romance is? Is that why we think it doesn’t exist? I think men and women combined have been conditioned to associate romance with roses, flowers, jewelry, chocolates, teddy bears and cards. Sorry folks, that is JUST what those industries want you to think.
True romance is so much more than just the tangible. Romance was DEFINITELY in existence!
In ancient Africa couples fed each other fresh fruit by hand, allowing the juices a chance to mingle between each caress. You’re probably wondering, “What’s so romantic about eating fruit?” Don’t over analyze this one. There is certainly an heir of seduction in the act of feeding your lover. Using your hands and not conventional utensils creates an intimate connection while inducing a sense of vulnerability within your partner. Without saying a word, your actions have said so much. Now THAT is romantic.
The other half of the definition of romance reads as follows; romance is a mysterious or fascinating quality or appeal, as of something adventurous, heroic or strangely beautiful. My take: Moments where we (men and women) are so moved by something our significant other has done…When we smile with our heart and are left speechless. Those are the romantic moments that we tend to overlook, but need to pay more attention to. SO, to answer the question if romance exists anymore -yes it does, it exist in the moments we are in awe of our partners for what they are doing for us. The act can be as minor as washing ones hair to something as grandiose as a trip to Paris. Romance. Affectionately Yourz”
I was browsing posts and found this gem. Love to know what you think about this take on romance.